Things That Annoy Me: Drunk Girls at Rock Shows

Hola dear Cream readers, and welcome to a new feature here on the blog. It's called "Things That Annoy Me" and it's about—you guessed it—things that annoy us about the local rock scene, the music industry and life in general. Today, I tackle that rock club stand-by: the obnoxious Drunk Girl.
Drunk Dudes propose a whole different set of issues (which will no doubt be covered at a later date), but overly intoxicated females also mean trouble for everyone. Last night's Band of Horses show was sold out. The place was packed. I was hoping for a relaxing evening of soaring, Southern-tinged indie rock. Unfortunately my companion and I seem to have located ourselves at the nexus of the Drunk-Girl universe. Two specific young ladies come to mind.
First, there was a brunette in a tank top who apparently drank drinks so fast that she had to head back the bar every 10 minutes or so. She would squeeze and push and breathe a way-too-loud "Excuse Me, EXCUSE ME" into my ear on every pass. We all know how tough it is to make it through a dense crowd—people are hesitant to forfeit even an inch of their hard-won view—so it's important to do it with a little grace, and a touch of concern. At least she didn't commit Drunk Girl Sin No. 1: Spilling on unsuspecting bystanders.
Before I launch into my second screed, I'll offer this qualifier: Yes, I get drunk at shows. Every once in a while I get quite drunk at shows. But I try not to let the alcohol get in the way of my carefully honed concert etiquette. My worst offenses have been brief over-shares with aquaintances and one near-fight at a Drive-By Truckers show in Athens, Ga.—that douche from Denver totally deserved that elbow.
Drunk Girl No. 2 yelled at me for yawning. She was wearing a black lace shirt, and she yelled at me for yawning. She walked by, observed my expression of well-earned fatigued, put her finger in my face and said, "No honey, NO yawning. We'll have none of that!" Ugh! It was Tuesday fucking night and Band of Horses are kind of like indie-rock elevator music (not that I don't like them), but either way, it was my own business to yawn and don't fracking talk to me if you don't fracking know me—unless it's to
compliment my shoes or something.
So yes, Drunk Girls—well, a certain breed of Drunk Girls—annoy me. Coming soon: four-band bills, plastic beer bottles, Drunk Dudes and too much bass.




Comments
Ooh, and what about the drunk couple making out at the bar? Like, tongue-down-the throat, throw-me-down-right-here making out? They were skeevy.
My worst drunk-girl pet peeve is the girls who come to the club in drunken packs, stand near the stage ... and talk through the entire show. I mean, you paid $18 to be here. You can stand around in the dark and yap with your buddies for free. Last winter's Josh Rouse shows come to mind as particularly flagrant examples.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 02:57:15 PMThe last Band of Horses show at the Exit/In was the worst show I saw last year. Their albums are absolutely terrific. But they didn't seem like they wanted to be there playing for a sold-out crowd. And they only had one album at the time.
So instead of going to this one, I drove to Atlanta to see Ween. Much more of a rock and roll show at a larger venue, so the drunk girls don't get in the way as much. They are a lot easier to ignore as the venue size grows.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 03:35:35 PMYou're always bitching about something. I swear. I can't wait to see what else you hate at shows. You know what I wish? I wish there was a category called "drunken Scene writers who snap at their boyfriends." (ahem Tracy Moore)
Or how about "Scene staff- who gives a fuck what you have to say?"
It's funny to me that you guys stroke your egos louder than the rockstars whom you write about.
Also, "lamecore" is lamecore. It's not a word...it's not even a two word hyphenate.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 03:59:00 PMyeah, I heard that too; many of my clones were in attendance.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 04:07:45 PMi thought "Things That Annoy Me" was already the focus of Nashville Cream. This is seriously going to be a NEW feature?
Posted 01/30/2008 at 04:27:23 PMThings That Annoy Me (Week Two): Cream Commenters.
If you don't like it, don't read it.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 04:32:48 PMThe drunk girl (or, you know, drunk guy) is a major annoyance that you can count on. Spilling beer on people. Lighting the wrong end of cigarettes (although I find that funny, especially since I've openly declared war on smokers). Being louder than the band. I could go on, but I won't since apparently a regular Cream feature can now do it for me...
And the worst show I saw last year was the Black Angels at Exit-In. That's a band I like, mind, or at least I did before that utter abortion. The sound was an inexcusable mess, but the band seemed to fold under pressure and it seemed to get worse and worse the whole set. If I had paid to get in, I would've asked for my money back since I could not regain the time. And I've never asked for my money back for anything ever. It really was inarguably horrendous.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 04:54:54 PMI think we can all agree that nothing is inarguable.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 05:25:04 PMStabert,
Come on! By now, it's easy to spot what all the writers like and don't like. You only really like shows if it's Glossary, Brooke Wagonner and Drive by Truckers. Otherwise, you might like the artists , but you ALWAYS bitch about something else that doesn't have anything to do with music. Yeah yeah, drunk people are stupid.
All this is stupid.
So my point : if you don't like cream bloggers, don't write blogs that people can comment on!
Posted 01/30/2008 at 05:32:33 PMIf you don't like it, don't read it???
Whatever happened to "love us or hate us, just keep the thread going?"
Posted 01/30/2008 at 05:44:41 PMAnyone who talks during a show should be shown the door or shot - their choice.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 06:09:18 PM@Matt S.
I beg to differ...
Posted 01/30/2008 at 06:12:57 PMThe small blonde in the Spin Doctors cap who walked back and forth from the front to the bar more times than songs played? The incredibly tall couple that stood front and center, making out before Tyler Ramsey and then during each set? The girl so deadpan drunk you couldn't tell if the "Wooo"s and "Yeeeah"s were serious or not?
Yeh - there were some foolishly drunken folks about, but the J.J.Cale and CCR covers made the night more than worth it.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 06:15:38 PMLee, i can't know if i hate it UNTIL i read it. Don't you at least find it encouraging that some of us give you, the writers, the benefit of the doubt and keep reading your posts? Is this blog just a pissing contest or is this blog a resource for the fairly interesting music scene in Nashville? Out with it already.
Posted 01/30/2008 at 06:53:09 PMIs this blog just a pissing contest or is this blog a resource for the fairly interesting music scene in Nashville
Posted 01/31/2008 at 12:54:12 AMThis could be shortened to...Isn't this just a blog?
Drunk girls are funny. It's the clumbsy drunk girls I've got issues with. Like the ones that accidentally burn you with their cigarette. I don't think I've ever been plastered enough that I forgot how to keep fire off other peoples skin. seriously. just quit.
clumbsy? really? ahhhhhhh. dag blast it. spelling wrong make me angry.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 01:43:47 AMAtleast none of you had to stand behind the middle aged guy who looked and smelled like he hadn't bathed in a week and insisted that he worked for a local music publication and was there to review the show. he was the only asshole in the place who was jumping and moshing by himself. dont get me wrong, i love boh. but you dont dance to them like you have lost your mind or transformed into a sugar-high seven year old. you also dont stomp on the feet of others around you and yell and convulse as if you have lost your mind.
needless to say, it was ridiculous. i would love to know who he really "worked" for and report him.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 07:19:02 AMto "age" - you don't HAVE to stand behind anyone. if he bothered you that much, you could've moved.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 07:47:43 AMfirst time i've read this and i think you should keep on bitching. if people don't like it they can kiss your ass, i guess.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 09:02:27 AMToo much bass? The next time I experience that in this town will be the first.
Too much guitar - now there's a common offense.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 09:50:25 AMSounds like the drunk girls may be the only ones who have 100 percent fun at these shows. Not sure, but I think I kinda like drunk girls.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 09:52:13 AMThat's Bill Crapp. Frankly speaking.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 10:19:39 AM"but you dont dance to them like you have lost your mind or transformed into a sugar-high seven year old. you also dont stomp on the feet of others around you and yell and convulse as if you have lost your mind."
ahem. excuse me, this wasnt a seated venue. if u cant "transform" and "dance like youve lost your mind" then..
what?
i do agree about drunk people who wont shut up.. but you can dance if you want to!
Posted 01/31/2008 at 11:11:02 AMgood golly , what a sour puss
Sounds like the majority of the scenester bloggers need to make the Bluebird their hangout.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 11:31:50 AMDrunk girls are annoying. Drunk dudes are just as bad though.
If people don't get drunk, the venues don't pay their bills, and you have no show to complain about.
You can go round and round about this, but its entirely subjective. Bottom line is : your enjoyment of the music should not be directly affecting that of others. Obviously, Band of Horses is not a punk rock show, nor a viable opportunity to dance like...er, David, let's say. Something tells me if dude was "convulsing" or whatever and stomping his feet, he was probably on some crazy drugs or was just crazy. When somebody is "dancing" like that in the crowd and consistently jostling other people around them, that person is a nuisance and should be treated as such. If you're at Exit-In, it's kind of implicit that you' not mosh like it's New York circa 1979. It should be common sense. Dance if you wanna dance. Keep your body to your self, thanks.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 11:32:10 AMyou are not a f*@king autobot. dance if you want to but don't dance like there is no one around you. and just because you want to be pete daugherty doesnt mean you are not offending people with your bad smell. take a bath and stop doing coke!!!
Posted 01/31/2008 at 11:38:42 AMI would like to see dancing banned from all the mid-small size clubs around here. Save it for City Hall or Bonnaroo. Dancing is not only annoying, it's dangerous. Combining drinking in the mix also could make it lethal, kind of like what happened at that show in Atlanta last year.
Keep your dancing to your self. Watch the band. Observe the music. That is what you paid for. Save the dancing for when your at your slumber parties you hipsters. Then maybe you'll understand the music on a deeper level.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 01:24:34 PMYeah, ban dancing!
Posted 01/31/2008 at 01:28:21 PMMy dancing is always lethal, even in small doses. But I do respect other people's personal space, if not their sense of aesthetics. Always.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 01:53:49 PMI don't know about banning dancing completely. Maybe we could try to get it where you can only dance after a certain time, like after 11pm, or have it where dancing is only permitted in certain areas in the back of the club, Exit In for example.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 01:56:33 PMDancing is dumb. Foot tapping is acceptable.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 02:05:37 PMnext time, tap shoes!
Posted 01/31/2008 at 02:15:55 PMNo dancing? No expression? No getting out and enjoying yourself? Music is meant to be heard and felt, not merely observed.
How bout all you boring fucks congregate in the back of the club, Exit In for example. Then you can observe the music AND all of the people having more fun than you.
By the way, just because someone feels inclined to dance doesn't mean they're on coke.
It's a fucking ROCK SHOW, kids. If you want a cool fest, go back to high school.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 03:45:39 PMTHIS IS WHY THE SCENE IN M'BORO IS BETTER! THE JERKS THAT FOLD THEIR ARMS AND HAVE A STARING CONTEST WITH THE BAND DON'T EXIST LIKE NASHVILLE. NOW IF ONLY WE HAD A VENUE???
Posted 01/31/2008 at 04:49:15 PMok. lets make it clear. there is nothing wrong with dancing and having fun and getting drunk off you ass. there has to be something called responsibility for your actions. and when you infringe upon others with your di@kheadedness you have to pay for those actions. it seems some of us need to pay a little more attention to what we are doing and then everybody can enjoy the show.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 04:55:40 PMJust to address jimmy's point:
Arm crossing at shows was actually invented in Murfreesboro dring the ancient '90s. That was how we showed the band love. It was also cold sometimes.
ALL CAPS! RULZ!
Posted 01/31/2008 at 05:22:12 PMWow, I've never heard this topic debated before.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 07:19:52 PMI like people to be loud and crazy at shows. I know bars like people to be drunk. I also like girls. Girls that have been drinking are really a plus, but I don't like the exit/in. so I agree completely with everything and nothing said here. anyone know my ATM code?
Posted 01/31/2008 at 08:29:59 PMI wouldn't single out females from the group of drunken, non-stop loud-talking idjits, 'cause I hate 'em all.
That said, as a hetero male, drunken females at a show ain't gotta be a bad thing.
Lee Stabert is female I assume? If the shoe compliment line & totally gay green cocktail photo weren't proof, the getting pissed at a drunk chick in a black lace shirt seems to confirm it. I find it incomprehensible that the crowd at a Band Of Horses show couldn't produce a memorable male retard. I mean, they paid money to get in, correct? I would think the douche factor had to be astronomical regardless of gender.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 09:53:12 PMLee said:
Things That Annoy Me (Week Two): Cream Commenters.
If you don't like it, don't read it.
Disdain for your readers is a tough sell, but I don't make my living as a writer. Maybe you don't, either.
Posted 01/31/2008 at 11:11:58 PMDancing at this sort of rock show is still dumb. Listening to good music should be primarily a cerebral endevour. Nuance is pretty hard to pick up on when your drunk as a skunk and throwing yourself around the room. If you want to dance, go to a dance club. Or at least dance in the back, so you don't bother those of us who are wanting to enjoy the show. Toe tapping & head bobbing are still ok.
Seated shows are the best. Nashville needs more.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 09:19:32 AMi really hate the word douche bag. please everyone can we please, for the love of god, come up with a new insult to call everybody. ok. top five insults to call people. go. and be original.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 09:27:46 AMno one pays attention after the first few posts. stabert's quite the bitch, for sure.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 09:36:44 AMFucktard. The only insult you'll ever need.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 09:51:38 AM"Listening to good music should be primarily a cerebral endevour."
This is why Rock and Roll is dead.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 10:20:50 AMIf it's Mazzy Star, sit quietly. If it's Guided By Voices, get out of your seat and move your feet, or move to the back of the venue and let the drunk fist-pumpers and pogo dancers have their night. In any case there is always going to to be someone at a show who crosses some line and makes things a little less enjoyable for someone else. That's a fact. Simple. (and I know that both of these bands don't actually tour anymore, but you get the idea)
Posted 02/01/2008 at 10:26:13 AMTo me, what's worse than the drunk dancing fucktards (thanks Sean, for that gem) is this attitude that drunk girls are a very good thing--and it's clear where you people are going with that.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 10:54:01 AMComments like those make me sick. I'm a heterosexual male, also, but I'm not pervy and predatory. Deplorable. Syphilitic, even. Enjoy the sex you won't remember, as well as the resulting VDs, regrets, babies, and abortions. Good luck with it.
Think about it from the band's point of view. If you're having a staring contest with a crowd of stiff-legged hipsters when on stage, you're gonna a)think they aren't really enjoying the show and b)feel very awkward and not enjoy playing.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 11:03:34 AMOn the other hand if you're playing to a crowd of pogo-dancing hipsters yelling and cheering, you're gonna a) know that they actually like what you're doing and b) enjoy playing your show. That's a very good reason to at least bob your head and/or pump your fist, in my opinion. Unless the band actually does suck, in which case you should let them know by being the stiff-legged hipster, so they'll quit making shitty music and move on to better things.
I actually prefer it when people are being quiet and attentive. But then, I've never been in a band that you'd call "fun."
Posted 02/01/2008 at 11:26:27 AM
Posted 02/01/2008 at 12:14:06 PMBands feed off the energy in the room. Maybe that's why some people here claim that this show in questioned left something to be desired.
"Soul/Decency/Respect": are you a Southern Baptist minister?
Keep your luck, I married a drunk chick I met at a bar (Multi Bob!) 16 years ago & we are still married.
And while it's true that I don't remember ALL of the sex from my single days, I never once regretted it. Also, no VDs, babies or abortions. Praise the Lord & pass the condoms, you fucktard!
Posted 02/01/2008 at 12:34:21 PMI suggest if you think standing there is fine, take the time to see a show in Nashville and then see the same band in Atlanta. A lot better atmosphere and energy in Atlanta. NASHVILLE CROWDS SUCK - UNLESS THE M'BORO CROWD SHOWS UP
Posted 02/01/2008 at 12:46:10 PMFuck Atlanta.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 12:51:27 PMYeah, fuck Atlanta and their multitude of far superior shows that pass our town by.
Posted 02/01/2008 at 02:17:29 PMwho's gonna help me off the floor at the basement, because i'm gonna be drunk and loud and pissing on people
Posted 02/01/2008 at 02:30:26 PMWho's gonna drive you home?
Posted 02/01/2008 at 02:49:44 PMWe don't care if you're drunk or not. Try not to cause fights, unless it's to win my heart. Just please spend more time at our merch tables. We entertain you, we try to write good music, we provide a reason for pleasin'. So please, if you can spend money on booze, you can spend $5 on art. If you're not drinking, more of a reason. We love you - goodnight.
Posted 02/02/2008 at 01:03:13 PMI agree with LocalVenue's comment. stay at the bluebird. You can enjoy the musical experience by not talking, smoking, dancing, laughing, or having any fun at all.
Posted 02/02/2008 at 01:52:33 PMDancing should be upfront. Music appreciators should be towards the back where you can hear a proper mix.
Wow
For what I gather is a bunch of young sprouts - who else would be reading this blog?, you all seem to be pretty passive.
Tobin wants you to stand still and stroke your beard whilst observing the "unit" on stage executing their motions and causing tones to be created.
Others want to impose a manner of prohibition on consumables, especially alcoholic liquids. Might take the edge off of your analytical skills.
We are discussing the cultural genre of music that falls under the umbrella of "POPular" music? No?
I suppose we could always install seating at the Exit/In. You could still fold your arms.
Oh, and only middle aged people smell? I cant WAIT till you kids grow old.
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